Because sex is a form of communication, it’s only natural for the telephone to play a part in our sexual activity. The anonymity of communicating by phone quickly made it the ideal way of asking someone out for a date. On the phone, the physical reaction of both parties remains secret, which makes the process a little easier on everyone.That anonymity also encourages many people to flirt over the phone (as they do over computer lines). In most cases, that flirtation never goes any further, especially because a great distance may separate the two people. And, although some people may “give great phone,” you may be sorely disappointed in them if you see them in the flesh.
These forms of sexual contact are basically innocent, but Alexander Graham
Obscene phone calls have long been a problem, although innovations such as Caller ID may soon make them a thing of the past. Some of these calls are merely pranks pulled by rambunctious teens looking more to shock than to actually excite anybody, least of all themselves. However, some people do become addicted to making obscene phone calls. A college president lost his job because of his habit of making such calls.
Pay to play — 900 or 976 numbers
Recently, people have used the phone lines more and more for conversations that have, as a goal, one or both parties reaching an orgasm. Some peoplehave always “talked dirty” to each other while masturbating. I even recommend such behavior to couples who are separated by long distances and want to keep their sexual relationship going while living apart. But what made the use of such behavior explode in popularity was the commercialism that came after the breakup of the
Nowadays, you can find hundreds of phone numbers that are exclusively used for sex (most are 900 numbers or have 976 exchanges). A person cancall and speak to someone who will fulfill whatever phone fantasy he or she may have — talking about sex to a woman or a man, ordering a submissive slave on the other end to obey one’s every command, or being dominated by a cruel master — all accompanied by the masturbation of the callers, who can make the fantasy last and pay the additional costs, or hang up as soon as they find the relief that they were seeking.
Because we are in need of safer sexual outlets, I suppose that these phone sex companies fill a need, but they also bring some drawbacks that disturb me:
I don’t believe that children are adequately protected. In theory, you have to be 21 or older to call, but do they really check? Even if callers are supposed to use a credit card number, what if a child, even a teenage child, uses a parent’s number?
Another drawback is the cost. Some people have gotten addicted to phone sex and ended up with astronomical bills. I have to admit that, if these people are adults, they make these calls of their own free will, but it still bothers me.
I just called to say . . .
Does phone sex belong in a relationship between two people? If they’re in a long-distance relationship, sure. But if they live nearby and they regularly have telephone sex as a means of safer sex, I’m just not sure. How realistic is it that two people who go out and date will continue to have sex only when they have a telephone line between them? Eventually, they will want to get together, so they had better be prepared for that moment and not rely on phone sex to keep them safe. However, I can’t really criticize any couple who does have phone sex because, in this day and age of AIDS, no measure that you take to remain healthy can be regarded as extreme.
The phone can be a helpful tool to spice up your sex life, even if you’re married. When you talk on the phone, you’re speaking right into the other person’s ear. Whispering “sweet nothings” — or “hot somethings” — into the phone, so only your lover and you can hear them, can let you get up closeand personal at any time of the day or night. You can use these moments as part of your overall strategy for foreplay. And, if the circumstances are right, once in a while you can even have real phone sex, with one or both of you masturbating, just to throw in some variety.
Cell phones: Sex on the go
Cell phones have been a boon to people who work and want to stay in touch with a loved one. If your workplace doesn’t allow personal phone calls, or if you have something to say that you don’t want the people in the adjoining cubicle to overhear, then all you have to do is grab your cell phone and go for a walk. Voilà! Instant privacy. All I ask is that you please don’t talk in your car while holding a cell phone. Not only is it illegal in many places, but it’s downright dangerous. If you must talk, use an earpiece, but even then, try to limit the amount of time you spend so you can concentrate on driving.
And when cell phones that could display pictures came along, so did the purveyors of pornography. I have to admit that I don’t quite understand what guys get out of seeing tiny little pictures of naked women. Can’t they wait until they get to a computer monitor?
Finally, some cell phones are also cameras. Some people can’t resist showing off parts of their naked body and then sending the picture to all their friends via cell phone. This is mostly harmless play, except when someone bares his or her body while intoxicated and discovers the next day that the image has been sent to every one of his or her friends, and maybe even posted on the Net. The idea isn’t so playful when you’re sober.
