Just as a man’s inability to have a psychogenic erection comes on slowly, so does the onset of impotency. An impotent man first finds that his erections become softer and don’t last as long. At some point, he can’t have an erection at all. Impotency is the second most common type of erectile dysfunction (ED).Until the advertisement campaigns for drugs to treat ED arrived on the scene, many men were too ashamed to ask their doctors about problems with impotency. They just figured that sex for them was over. But since the development of drugs, such as Viagra (sildenafil), to treat ED, that attitude has changed dramatically. But while Viagra, or one of the other such pills, may solve the problem, the medication brings up other issues about communication with one’s spouse.
You should always check with your physician about impotency, especially if you take any kind of medication. Different medications have different side effects. Sometimes, if you complain to your doctor about problems with impotency, he or she can put you on a different type of drug, and the impotency will go away. Impotency may also be an early indication of circulatory problems, so by reporting problems with your erections to your doctor, you may end up preventing a serious health issue.
These ED drugs don’t work for every impotent man. Some men who are on certain heart medications aren’t allowed to take them. And others have physical problems too severe for even one of these drugs to help. But if a man is just not able to have an erection any longer, that doesn’t mean that he can never perform sexual intercourse again. Medication isn’t the only solution to impotency; a variety of implant devices are available to allow a man to have erections whenever he wants them.
A benefit of aging: No more premature ejaculation
Many men who suffer from premature ejaculation (when a man ejaculates before he wants to) when they’re younger find that, as they age, that particular problem often goes away. If their wives really enjoy intercourse, this can signal the start of a whole new phase of their sex lives.
The Psychological Bonuses
The effects of aging go beyond physical changes for both partners. Their attitudes about sex may change for the better as well.
When two people first get married, their libidos are so high that they make time for sex even if time is short. As the years go by, and particularly as children arrive on the scene, finding time for sex can become more difficult. And in these days when both men and women are in the workforce, not only is time often in short supply but energy is as well.
In the so-called golden years, time suddenly grows in much larger supply. The kids are out of the house (I hope), and even if both partners aren’t fully retired, in all likelihood they’re not working full time. These changes allow the couple to make love at various hours of the day, and in various places — not just at night in the bedroom with the door locked.
Making love in the morning isn’t only advisable because it adds variety. The male sex hormone, testosterone, is at its highest level in the morning; if a man has problems with impotency, they are least likely to show up in the morning. Also, after a good night’s rest, energy levels may be higher.
Just as during any other period in your relationship, the more effort you put into better lovemaking during your golden years, the more you get out of the experience.
